Why You’re Not “Overreacting”: When Small Things Trigger Big Emotions
Ever find yourself tearing up over a spilled coffee? Or completely shutting down because you forgot to return a text? Maybe it’s a random comment that suddenly sends you spiralling, and the only thing louder than your tears is the thought: “What’s wrong with me?”
Let me say this as clearly as I can — nothing is wrong with you.
At Mindful Insights Psychotherapy, we see this emotional unraveling all the time. Not because people are “too sensitive,” but because their nervous system is overloaded, their heart is heavy, and their emotions have been quietly buried for far too long.
Small Triggers, Big Feelings: What’s Actually Happening
That moment you cry over “nothing”? It’s almost never about the spilled coffee.
It’s about:
The unpaid bills
The grief that never got named
The constant emotional labor
The restless sleep
The emotions that were never allowed
This is cumulative stress, and it builds up like a full glass of water. One small drop—and suddenly, everything spills.
You’re not weak. You’re just full.
We talk more about this buildup in our blog “Why Am I So Irritated All the Time?”, where stress often disguises itself as anger or sensitivity.
Suppressed Doesn’t Mean Forgotten
There’s a common myth: “Time heals all wounds.”
But time alone doesn’t heal—processing does. And when we suppress rather than process, the pain waits. It often reappears in the form of:
Irritability
Emotional shutdowns
Anxiety
Uncontrollable crying spells
Psychiatrist Dr. Bessel van der Kolk put it best: “The body keeps the score.” Suppressed emotions don’t vanish—they just get quieter until they can’t anymore.
Signs You Might Be Emotionally Overloaded
If you:
Feel emotionally raw
React strongly to minor events
Avoid people or daily tasks
Wake up exhausted
Struggle to name your feelings
…it’s not because you’re overreacting. It’s because your system is waving a red flag.
In our blog “I’m Not Depressed, I’m Just Tired of Pretending”, we explore how internalized pressure and emotional suppression can feel like burnout or exhaustion.
So… What Can Help?
Start with this: drop the judgment.
At Mindful Insights Psychotherapy, we hold space for clients who’ve been holding it all together for too long. The goal isn’t to “fix” your emotions—it’s to understand them.
Therapy can help you:
Recognize emotional patterns
Build nervous system regulation skills
Safely release held-in emotions
Reclaim emotional space without guilt
And no, you don’t need to wait until it gets worse to reach out.
This Isn’t About Fixing You — It’s About Hearing You
What if your tears are the body’s way of saying: “I’ve been strong for too long”?
Therapy isn’t about silencing these signals. It’s about listening with curiosity and compassion.
In sessions, we help clients catch up with the parts of their story they’ve had to skip—whether due to survival mode, trauma, or sheer exhaustion.
You’re Allowed to Feel — Even When It’s Inconvenient
So if you’ve found yourself wondering, “Why do I cry so easily?” maybe the better question is:
“What haven’t I had space to feel yet?”
Your emotional reactions are not the problem. They are messengers. And at Mindful Insights Psychotherapy, we create a safe space to hear them.
You’re allowed to feel—even when it’s messy, inconvenient, or uncomfortable.
You’re allowed to need help—even when you seem “fine.”
And you’re allowed to heal—even when you’re still figuring out where to start.
If You’re Ready to Stop Holding It All Alone, We’re Here
Visit our Individual Therapy page to learn more about how we can support you. Or explore more topics in our Therapy Blog.
Your emotions make sense. Let’s make space for them—together.